Great Friends with a guy and told him I liked him.?

My husband and I seperated and I started dating an old customer of mine. We had a great reporte when I sold to him and we still do. We laugh constantly. He is smart and has a witty sense of humor. We were intimate one time, and then my husband wanted to work things out with me after being gone for 3 months. I really liked the guy I was dating but was heartbroken when my husband left, so I didn't want to make up my mind on marriage over 2 dates even though I have known this guy 4 years. We still joke and I tell him that I can't see him romantically but we love to spend time together. We have not touched at all in 2 months. He text me constantly, and will send me text about the moon. He jokingly calls me Snow White and is always very sweet. We have martinis once a week in a public location. He is afraid to be alone with me and doesn't want to be the other guy. So we have just been enjoying our time together and we never talk about or do anything inappropriate. He is my BFF (jokingly) and he says I am the same. It is not working out with my husband which is sad and disappointing to me. He is still very controling and mean and rarely compliments me or does anything nice. He has been verbally/emotionally abusive in the past. This guy is so respectful and funny. Nobody makes me laugh as hard as he does. I told him that I understood that he didn't want to be the other guy and told him that I wouldn't ask that of him. I said I will not hold him back or ask him to wait but what if in 6 months I had my own place and we didn't have to watch the clock? I asked if that would change things. He said he loves spending time with me but sometimes he feels like he is in the way and doesn't want to mess up my marriage. I told him that he doesn't do anything to prevent me from working it out with my husband. I asked him if he would rather spend less time with me if that would make it easier. He said he doesn't think we spend enough time together already but that maybe that is best. He admitted though he doesn't always know whats best. Sometimes if we talk he says he is trying to get me off his mind. I ask what he means and he makes a joke of it. Now that I asked about where we would be if I were on my own in 6 months I have not heard from him. This was only last night but before he would text first thing in the morning or at lunch time or when he got home from work. What is going on inside of his mind? Does he like me? Is he playing games with me?